Lodestar: a star that is used to guide the course of a ship, especially the Pole Star; a person or thing that serves as an inspiration or guide.
Oxford English Dictionary
When my sister Lisa and I were growing up, Daddy would pass long-haul truckers on the interstate, pump his fist in the air, and pull it straight down in what he said was the universal signal for truckers to blow their horns. As he shared this inside information, his mile-wide grin was contagious. Lisa and I smiled and waved excitedly after the truck drivers blew their horns just for us. Daddy said he knew truckers’ signals because he went on long-haul runs with his uncles when he was young. In Daddy’s telling, truckers were benevolent kings of the road, and we felt kin to them as Daddy talked about the fellowship of truck drivers with great respect and pride.
Daddy’s father and uncles worked at East Tennessee Packing Company, producers of Selecto meat products, located just down the road from their rented rooms in South Knoxville. The stink of butchered hogs and cows permeated their neighborhood, but the Allen clan, originally from Sevier County–which would eventually become famous for producing Dolly Parton and as the gateway to the Great Smoky Mountains National Park–was thankful for the work.
A couple of Daddy’s uncles were tough, hard-drinking truck drivers who could take life on the road and spit any trouble right back into the mouth of the lion. Not so my father, called Rotha (pronounced Rothie by his family) as a tribute to a Mormon elder revered by his parents, Hodge Allen and Darcus Montgomery Allen. Daddy’s maternal grandparents and paternal grandmother Lucinda (pronounced Lu-Cindy) were Mormon converts in an island of Baptists and Methodists, Lucinda became something of an outcast from her community, her husband, and her older sons when she converted. It was only her younger boys Hodge and Clark who joined her in the faith that had few adherents in East Tennessee. The Montgomery family fared no better on their farm in Carroll County, Virginia, and eventually moved to Kingsport, Tennessee.
Daddy was sensitive in the mold of his father who paradoxically was a butcher on the killing floor of the meat-packing company. His mother Darcus died when Daddy was 4 months old, and he was raised by his grandmother Lucinda until she died when he was 5. For my father, childhood was something to survive as he grew up with his ineffectual father and alcoholic great uncle who was an angry drunk.
Fiercely proud, opinionated, and eccentric, my father could be easily aroused to anger if anyone disagreed with him, which did not bode well for holding a job. But he was friendly, open, and could tell stories. He had an aphorism for every situation, what my husband Kurt and I call Daddy’s Ro-pherisms.
“You’ve got to take the sour with the sweet.“
When my parents were married, Mama worked at the Great Atlantic Shoe Company and Daddy worked at the packing company with his father and uncles. By the time I was born a year and a half later, Daddy was unemployed, so Mama gave birth and after a few weeks went back to working at the shoe company while Daddy kept me. I can only imagine the chaos that ensued with my father, who detested loud noises, caring for a crying newborn. I can also imagine how incensed Mama’s father would have been for his daughter to work while her husband cared for the baby. Waaaaaa, indeed.
Despite dropping out of high school two years before graduation, Daddy landed a few white-collar jobs at Knoxville’s most iconic and successful businesses. First he worked as a bookkeeper at House-Hasson Hardware Company, a company that still thrives, just not in Knoxville. After he lost that job, he proudly gave us a tour of the milling operation at his next bookkeeping job for J. Allen Smith and Company, millers of the South’s finest flour, White Lily Flour. Daddy worked there for a few years before the innovative and thriving company told him they were replacing him with a computer.
“You win some, you lose some.“
After losing his two office jobs, Daddy had high hopes for his next employer, Kern’s Bakery, which produced some of the best bread products in Knoxville. He sweated (quite literally) for two years in the baking area of the company and worked his way up to delivering Kern’s bread to Grainger County, northeast of our South Knoxville home.
Kern’s Bakery was family-oriented and sponsored an annual picnic in the summer for all its employees at nearby Chilhowee Park with plenty of food and free tickets for the employees’ children to ride all the rides. The company also had a small, kids-sized, mobile merry-go-round that could be pulled behind a truck to birthday parties, holiday gatherings, parades, and other special events. The kind and friendly man who was responsible for the Kern’s Bakery merry-go-round handed out tiny loaves of breads to us kids after we rode the brightly colored horses.
We loved Kern’s Bakery, but Daddy’s meticulous and methodical nature was not compatible with quickly delivering bread, and soon he was out of a job again.
“Money isn’t everything.“
For a time he delivered magazines for Anderson News, but that job ended the same as the others. Daddy was a dreamer with strong opinions and great passions. He could not abide being told he was wrong, and he obsessively loved what interested him, such as the high school sports teams at South (Knoxville) High School where he went to school before he dropped out in the 10th grade. He followed the University of Tennessee football team and Lady Vols basketball team, and gloried in the wins of the Lady Vols’ legendary coach, Pat Head Summitt. The team’s and players’ triumphs were his person achievements; he was truly obsessed with the things he loved.
In the mid to late 1980s, Daddy must have bumped into his Allen cousins at a Lady Vols game and decided he was going to take a rather expensive course to learn how to become a long-haul trucker and drive loads across the country with his cousin Blaine.
“Where there’s a will, there’s a way.“
Perhaps it was the lure of the open road and his love of travel that led Daddy to pursue the life of a long-haul trucker. Or maybe it was his adventurous spirit that encouraged him to change his line of work in middle age. His work life had been checkered, but apparently Daddy wanted to jump behind the wheel and take charge of his future.
Daddy missed Mama too much, so after three weeks of driving a semi, Daddy packed it in and never drove another semi.
Daddy was successful at completing the course to learn how to drive an 18-wheeler with their 9 to 18 gears, and Daddy had to back up the truck as well as go forward. Since Daddy was not in the least bit mechanical, learning to drive a semi was a huge achievement for a man with his abilities, sensibilities, and age.
I would love to write that Daddy was successful at following in the footsteps of his long-haul truck driving Allen family, but as was the case with many of his jobs: this one ended after only three weeks. Daddy missed Mama and found the road was not for him.
Blaine and Daddy did, however, make one long-haul journey to the Pacific Northwest. First Blaine drove, then Daddy relieved him, and so on, as they made steady progress toward their destination: Oregon. Or as Daddy pronounced it: Or-e-gone. Something about the trip, his only visit to this state sparked a lifelong fascination with Oregon and the mountain he saw there.
“Little things mean alot.”
For the rest of his life, Daddy would ask nearly everyone he met, “Have you ever been to Or-e-gone?” The questions was swiftly followed by: “Have you ever seen Mt. Hood?”
Daddy knew that my husband and I had traveled a great deal since Kurt had worked in over 40 countries during his consulting career. No matter how many times I visited Daddy at his senior living facility late in his life, he would ask me, “Anna, have you ever been to Or-e-gone?” My answer was always be the same, “No, Daddy, I have never been to Oregon.” And I had never seen Mt. Hood.
“Better late than never.“
A week after we had a laughter-filled family Thanksgiving celebration (photo above) together, my father died from a heart attack on Friday, December 2, 2016. At that time, no one in our family had completed the journey that inspired so much joy for Daddy. We had never been to Oregon.
However, a few years after Daddy died, his grandson Zach–my sister’s son–and the love of his life, Paige, moved to Portland, Oregon. From the city of Portland, on a clear day, you can see Mt. Hood, Daddy’s lodestar.
In September 2019, Kurt and I visited Zach and Paige in Portland. On our final day there, Kurt and I toured Pittock Mansion and its grounds which are located on the highest hill of Portland. The mansion overlooks one of the finest views of Mt. Hood from Portland’s west hills. The mansion was built to the specifications of a visionary man, Henry Pittock, born in London in either 1834 or 1836.
A penniless, but industrious adventurer, Pittock traveled across the U.S. at the age of 17 (according to the Oregon Encyclopedia), in 1853 following the Oregon Trail–six years before the territory entered the union. He worked as a typesetter at the Weekly Oregonian newspaper that was started in 1850, and ten years later he was given the newspaper as repayment for back wages. Henry built The Oregonian into the newspaper with the highest circulation in the state.
Although we had seen Mt. Hood from a distance, as in the photo Kurt taken at the right above, we had never been close to the mountain as Daddy had. On July 23, 2023–during our most recent visit with Zach and Paige–we remedied that as they suggested we travel together to the Hood River Lavender Farms and fruit orchards found at the base of Mt. Hood.
After we cut aromatic lavender stems in the floriferous fields and bought Benton cherries at Kiyokawa Orchards, we saw this stunning view of Mt. Hood in all its glory.
Finally I can answer Daddy’s question, “Have you ever been to Or-e-gone? Have you ever seen Mt. Hood?” Yes, Daddy, I have been to Oregon, and I have seen Mt. Hood. It is every bit as beautiful and inspiring as you described.
Thank you, Daddy, for being my lodestar in so many ways!
As I said in my November 2017, blogpost, a year after his death:
Mama gave me my energy, drive, and hardworking, never-say-die work ethic. But Daddy gave me the sweet love that sustained my soul during the times in my life when I was in serious harm’s way. He LOVED me. And because he loved me, I knew in my bones how to love others. Loving myself and accepting myself with all my imperfections has been hard; I am my own worst critic. But Daddy saw only my shiny-faced good points, and he made me glad to be alive.
He still does. And as long as I live, he will always be with me. He is still my sweet, sweet, adorable, dearest Daddy.
Anna Montgomery, November 30, 2017
~ Anna – 7-31-2023